Why self-care isn't selfish

As a carer, you'll dedicate a lot of your time and energy to supporting those who need it. But while you're looking after everyone else, do you ever feel guilty about taking time for you? You're not alone in this because many carers experience the same. But the thing is, self-care isn't selfish at all, it's essential.

Guilt gets in the way of self-care

It's very common for carers to overlook their own needs because they feel guilty. But I like to think of self-care as filling up a car with fuel - if you keep running on empty, you won't be able to get anywhere, let alone help others. When you take care of yourself, it allows you to show up as the best version of yourself for the people who rely on you.

Create small self-care habits

Self-care doesn't have to be spa days or weekends away, although that would be nice. In fact, self-care is more about the small things you do daily, even when you're really busy:

• Take a break. Step outside for fresh air, or enjoy a quiet cup of tea for 5 minutes.

• Take deep breaths. Just a few slow, deep breaths can help reset your nervous system.

• Get moving. Even a short walk or stretching can help ease the tension in your body.

• Journal. Write down your throughts and feelings to process your emotions.

• Connection. Sometimes, just talking to someone who understands your experience can make the world of difference to your day.

Boundaries prevent burnout

The reality is that caring roles can be emotionally demanding and, without boundaries, burnout is a real risk.

Learning to say "I need a break" or "I haven't got the capacity for this" isn't selfish, it's necessary. Seeking support through counselling, your peer networks, or supervision, can also positively impact your mental wellbeing. You don't have to deal with this alone.

Prioritising yourself doens't mean you're neglecting the people you care for. It means you're ensuring you're well enough to continue supporting them. It's not indulgent, it's a key part of sustainable caring.

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